Now, before you get all worked up ladies, let's qualify the level of your accusation together because one of the worst things you can do in a marriage is accuse your spouse of infidelity if in fact there is none. There are basically four categories of accusation bases: intuition, rumor, evidence and proof. Which does your accusation belong to? It's not an easy answer because there are variables within the catagories. Some intuition is influenced by suspicion and some is based on past behavior or experience and some is just a mis-guided hunch. Some rumor comes with agenda but some rumors come from credible people. Some evidence can be from circumstancial to substantial and of course, the undeniable is proof.

First, examine your relationship. Have both of you been working on the maintenance of your important partnership? If not, why? Many people fall over themselves for friends who don't even meet the definition. People seem quite capable of nurturing the spider plants religiously but let their marriage dry up and die off. what is worse, many don't even know they are doing great harm by failing to do anything.

Signs

Please don't pretend to believe in the "women just know"phrase because men get away with many things every waking moment of the day. I don't want you to waste our time and your money because you "just have a feeling". Both of you deserve more before a professional comes in and inadvertantly alters the trust of an otherwise good relationship. We need signs to justify such a course of action.

Is the level of affection he is showing any different? I don't mean is it any less . You'd be surprised how an increase of affection can be an indication of trouble. Most men who cheat are just incapable of letting  vital organs above the waist make crucial decisions when temptation comes a' knockin. after carried out the lustful no-no, most are suddenly struck with guilt and quite often shower their wives with gifts soon after. Confused? I haven't gotten started yet. Before the lamp flies after you get a long overdue kiss and maybe some flowers, remember that this can also mean your husband has realized that you actually deserved these things. To be sure, write down any unexpected burst of affection that seems out of character and unjustified. Try to write down the time frame he has been out of your site and how much information about his whereabouts can be verified....Part II found here soon.